Neurodivergent Resources on Autism + ADHD
a love note from Adria…..
This started as a list for myself inside a google doc. In true Autist form, I catalogued everything I came across that hit me deep in the belly with recognition, and everything I could send to loved ones to help them understand me better.
I thought I’d share it with you because I think, as ND folks, one of our shared core wounds is often not feeling understood. Use it for your own self-exploration or to send to allies in your life.
xoxo
p.s. I’ve done my best to make this loving infodump less overwhelming! Most of these are linked to simple, easy-to-digest content like Instagram graphics.
for the neuro-curious & allies
The Basics
Fun Opposite ADHD Traits (IG slides)
Random Autism Things (IG slides)
Understanding the “Spectrum” (infographic)
How to Be An Autism Ally (video, 11 min)
10 Ways to Be a Better Autism Ally (video, 13 min)
Support Autistics During Autism Acceptance Month (IG slides)
Could YOU be Autistic (and not know) (video, 7 min)
Autism Symptoms in Girls (video, 10 min)
How to Explain ADHD - Jess at “How to ADHD” (YouTube video)
Stigma & Assumptions
Autistic Traits from the Outside vs Inside (IG video)
A Late Diagnosis Doesn’t Mean I Struggled Less (IG slides)
Ways We Learn to Ignore Our Boundaries (IG slides)
“Over-Reacting” (IG slides)
Stigma Against Autistic Traits (IG slides)
People’s Expectations Stay the Same (IG graphic)
The Emotional Labor of having to educate everyone around you.
More on Emotional Labor (IG graphic)
Asking “Why?” (IG graphic)
Dismissing & Invalidation from Therapists (IG post)
Common Myths About ADHD (IG slides)
Why Label? Diagnosis = Self Compassion (IG post)
Lived Experience
‘My Autism is Showing’ Moments (article)
Making Sense of What Autism Is & the Late Diagnosed Journey (podcast episode)
Emily Nagasaki’s Experience of Autism (article)
An Autistic Lived Experience (Youtube playlist - Agonie Autie)
Ask an Autistic - Amythest Schaber (YouTube series)
Autistic Joy (IG slides)
It’s Not All Negative
Autistic Joy (IG slides)
the neurodivergent brain
Communication Differences
The Double Empathy Problem (IG slides)
The 4 Kinds of Empathy: Why my empathy might look different than the NT majority (tiktock video)
Weaving vs Concluding (IG post)
Cooperative Overlap (IG post, not the article)
Email & Masking (IG graphic)
I choose every word with extreme care and still get misunderstood (IG post)
I overshare because… (IG post)
Whole Body Listening Revised (IG graphic)
In Relationship
Holding Your Autistic Friend to NT Standards (IG slides)
ND Friendships (IG slides)
Autistic Intimacy & Love Languages (IG slides)
It’s Not Social Anxiety (IG video)
Autistic in Social Life (IG slides)
Autism Struggles with NT Friendship (IG slides)
Things I Say to My Autistic Partner on Their Bad Days (IG slides)
Challenges
Responding to Messages (IG graphic)
How Difficulty with Change Shows Up (IG slides)
Autistic Inertia (IG graphic)
Demand Avoidance vs PDA (article)
AuDHD
When You’re BOTH Autistic & ADHD
Conflicting Traits (IG graphic)
Contradictions - the Owl & the Tiger (IG slides)
Overstimulated vs Understimulated (IG graphic)
5 Signs You Have ADHD & Autism (video)
Having Autism & ADHD (the AuDHD Paradox) - (video, Purple Ella - 8 min)
Autistic & ADHD Life as a Paradox (personal article)
burnout
Autistic Burnout
Autistic Burnout (article)
Spoon Theory (article)
Spoon Theory (IG slides)
Masking in Public, Exhausted in Private (IG slides)
Autistic Exhaustion (IG slides)
Burnout vs Depression (IG slides)
Signs of Burnout (IG slides)
How I Know I’m In Burnout (IG slides)
Skill Regression (IG slides)
Autism Low Stress to Extreme Stress (IG chart)
Sensory Overload
Messy Environments (IG graphic)
Temperature Regulation (IG video)
Sensitive Visual Systems (IG slides)
The Need for Alone Time (IG slides)
Burnout Recovery
Positive Sensory Inputs (IG slides)
Returning to Autistic Joy (IG slides)
Unmasking Mindset Shift (IG graphic)
Meltdowns
Shutdowns (article)
Meltdowns (article)
Meltdown Triggers (IG slides)
Meltdowns are NOT (IG slides)
Meltdowns vs Shutdowns (IG graphic)
How to Help with a Meltdown (IG slides)
After a Meltdown (IG slides)
The Experience of a Meltdown (IG slides)
Autistic Meltdown Vs Shutdown (video, 8 min)
tools & support
Reframing
“Impatience” vs Attention Tunnels (article)
“I Feel Visited Enough” (IG graphic)
Monotropic In Practice (resource list)
To Support the Autistic/ND Kids in Our Lives
@Neurowild (IG account)
Autism Children’s Books (IG slides)
Why tell kids about their neurodivergent brain (IG slides)
ND-Affirming Approach to Parenting (IG slides)
“When someone in your house is Autistic” (IG slider explaining to siblings)
Autistic children learn best with… (IG graphic)
Workplace & School Accomodations
Struggles, Strengths & Reasonable Accommodations (IG slides)
Autism & Employment (IG slides)
Workplace Accommodations are NOT a Privilege (IG video)
disability
Living in a World Not Built for Us
Is Autism a Disability? (IG slides)
Disability Not ‘Differently Abled’ (IG graphic)
Equity vs Equality (IG slides)
Autistic Internalized Ableism (IG slides)
Support Needs Level (IG slides)
PDA (Persistent Drive for Autonomy)
Demand Avoidance vs PDA (article)
PDA (easy to understand article)
PDA Explained (expert-speak article & infographic)
Social vs Medical Model of Disability
“Disorder” vs “Neurodivergent” (IG graphic)
Why everything you know about Autism is wrong - TEDx talk, Jac den Houting (13 min)
Affirming & Harmful Autism Advocacy Organizations (list with links)
The Puzzle Piece & Autism Speaks (IG slides)
more resources
Books
Unmasking Autism - Devon Price
The Autistic Survival Guide to Therapy - Stef Jones
A Different Kind of Normal - Abigail Balfe (book, for Kids 8-12)
“A Radical Guide for Women with ADHD” by Sari Solden
Websites
https://neurodivergentinsights.com/
https://embrace-autism.com/blog/
https://www.tumblr.com/mostlyadhd
https://www.additudemag.com/category/blog/
Instagram Accounts
Apps
The Inflow app (community & learning for ADHDers)
Tiimo (planner for ND folks)
Podcasts
ADDITUDE podcast (short eps on various topics)