1-1 COACHING
FOR AUDHD WOMEN
What if nothing
was wrong with you?
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Once we discover that we’re both Autistic and ADHD, decades of our lives suddenly make sense.
The sensitivity. The shutdown. The way advice never quite worked the same way for us.
But knowing why doesn’t fix things.
We’re still exhausted by 4pm. Still rehearsing what to say before we say it. Still apologizing for needing things differently.
Still losing friendships not from conflict, but from silence — too tired to reach out, then too ashamed to explain why it's been so long. Still buying the productivity app, the routine, the system everyone swears by — and quietly shelving it a week later.
What if instead of fixing ourselves to fit the world, we could reshape our worlds to fit us?
Introducing
AuDHD COACHING
This work begins with you. Not your calendar or your kitchen — though we'll get there.
The layers you've been carrying. The performing. The translating. The shrinking.
Slowly, we peel those back — and redesign everything around who's underneath.
The Practical Magic
Here's what that can actually look like, session to session:
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You mention, almost as an aside, that you've stopped doing the one thing that used to calm you down — a bath, a walk, an hour with a show you've rewatched forty times. It got crowded out somewhere along the way.
We slow down right there. Because that’s regulation quietly disappearing, and little things add up to big things for us.
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You’re trying to decide how much to tell a new manager about needing things in writing. Half of you wants to disclose everything, half wants to disappear and never bring it up.
We don't pick a side. We find the specific, workable answer for this manager, this workplace, this version of you — not a rule to carry into every room after.
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You come in frustrated about the same fight with your partner, again, about the dishes. We don't start with a chore chart. We start with what's actually underneath — the task-switching cost, the sensory overwhelm, the shame spiral that sneakily drives the conversation.
The dishes might still not get done today. But the shame does, and that changes what's possible next.
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You catch yourself agonizing, again, over a comment, a laugh that came out too loud, being “too much” in a meeting that’s already over.
We slow down there too. Because maybe awkward can stop being something to manage and start being a charming part of ourselves we claim.
What becomes possible…..
Your friendships become places to exhale instead of brace. Some fall away, but the ones worth keeping cost less — no more performance required, no more disappearing into shame spirals.
Doing-it-the-way-everyone-else-does-it loosens its grip. Achievement stops being the measure of your life and gets replaced with you deciding what matters most. Work follows your actual energy instead of someone else's pace.
Your home starts to hold you instead of overwhelm you. You reclaim a piece of physical space that’s just yours — a chair, a patio candle, a room where regulating doesn’t have to be earned first.
You move through the world grounded instead of collapsed. Not because it got easier. Because the wall you used to hit — the one built from doing everything someone else’s way — stops being the only route through.
What clients say
“It really does feel like my life has a lot more space to breathe.
I’m a much happier person now than I was in late 2025 — I’m not constantly stressed out about work, and I don’t feel hurried a lot, which is absolutely what I felt the last year. Adria midwifed that transition for me.”
— Nellie S.
How we’ll work together
I've designed my coaching practice with our AuDHD brains & nervous systems in mind.
The Logistics
Your dedicated biweekly Wednesday or Thursday time slot. One monthly payment with automatic billing. Light support via email/Voxer between sessions. Simple, predictable, designed to reduce decision fatigue.
The Energy
Sessions last 45 minutes with optional camera use. Freedom to stim, fidget, move, or show up however you are. I understand shutdown, burnout, and overwhelm—we work with your actual capacity, not against it.
Is this your path?
This work isn’t for everyone. And that’s okay.
This is for you if you’re ready to:
Unlearn the story that something was always wrong with you
Let go of trying to be “normal” and build a life that actually fits
Move slowly, trusting your body’s wisdom over productivity culture
This might not be for you if:
You’re looking for quick fixes or a set program to follow
You’d rather have one answer that applies everywhere than sit with nuance
You need someone to tell you exactly what to do (I’m a partner, not a prescriber)
Working Together
AuDHD Coaching ($350/month)
Ongoing support:
Two 45-minute sessions a month
Support between sessions via Voxer
Simple monthly billing that happens automatically
Time together to make ripple effects & see real shifts
I’m Adria Sophia
(she/her), TEDx Speaker, AuDHD coach, podcast host, & late-identified AuDHDer.
How do you know if you’ve landed in the right place?
You’re looking for:
A coach who is also Autistic + ADHD and has walked the path before you
Someone who truly gets it without needing to be educated or accidentally dismissing your experiences
Someone who doesn’t underestimate you, who doesn’t reset to square one, but instead acknowledges your journey and builds from there
A partner and co-creator—someone to hold space and help you build your path forward
Someone who's guided hundreds of women already, not because she has all the answers (no one does), but because she's seen enough patterns to recognize yours
…And if you’ve felt emotion, deep resonance or a tendril of excitement listening to episodes of AuDHD Sparks.
Feeling that zing of truth?
Here are a few episodes that give a real sense of who I am and how I coach. Give one a listen — if you feel that "yes, she gets it" zing, you're probably in the right place. Or learn more about my philosophy here.
Want an even clearer yes?
Common Questions
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When you reach out via my contact page, I’ll respond within a week (usually sooner) to start a conversation about what you're navigating.
From there, we might:
Continue our conversation via email
Schedule a brief connection call if that feels helpful (just let me know)
Move straight into scheduling your first session if we're both feeling aligned
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Clients describe my energy as grounding with an open, judgment-free ear. I blend compassionate support with practical clarity—helping normalize things you feel shame around while breaking down complicated situations into simple steps. I'm not a hardass buttkicker, but I will ask questions that help you see things differently.
You can get a real sense of my style by listening to my podcast AuDHD Sparks - it's probably the best way to know if my approach resonates with you.
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Most clients work with me for at least 3-6 months, with many continuing longer as we address different areas of their ecosystem.
Here's the thing — we're not trying to be fast and furious here. As Autistic ADHDers, we need processing time. Integration time.
This intentional slowness is actually supportive for our neurotype. It gives your nervous system the chance to adjust without constant pressure to "hurry up and transform already."
The biweekly session format means you can work with me for exactly the length of time that serves you - whether that's a 3-month focused period or ongoing support. No arbitrary end dates or pressure to "graduate" before you're ready.
Many clients tell me this permission to go at their actual pace feels like the first deep breath they've taken in years.
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Currently, all coaching sessions happen on Wednesdays and Thursdays between 11am-3pm Pacific time.
I use a dedicated time slot system (e.g. "Every other Wednesday at 1 pm") that remains consistent throughout our work together, unless we decide to shift it.
This predictable rhythm:
Eliminates the executive function load of booking each session
Builds coaching naturally into your routine
Gives your brain one less thing to track and manage
Allows me to fully prepare for YOUR specific needs before we meet
*Can't do Wednesdays/Thursdays or prefer asynchronous support? Let me know when you reach out. We can explore a Voxer-based coaching structure that gives you ongoing support without the scheduling load.
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Your investment for ongoing coaching is $350 USD/month, which includes two 45-minute sessions a month. (Or ongoing asynchronous Voxer support if that’s the structure that works best.) Payment is automatically billed each month to make it easy on both our executive functioning.
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Traditional ADHD coaching typically focuses on productivity strategies, time management, and organization "hacks" to help you function better within existing systems. Meanwhile, conventional Autism coaching often emphasizes social skills, sensory accommodations, and coping mechanisms for navigating neurotypical environments.
My approach is fundamentally different because:
- Instead of teaching you productivity tricks to manage distractions in an open office, we explore creating environments that actually match your sensory and focus needs
- Rather than drilling social scripts to appear more neurotypical, we identify the relationships where you can be your unmasked self and minimize draining social obligations
- Instead of implementing rigid scheduling systems, we create flexible structures that honor your natural energy patterns and executive functioning style
- Rather than treating your Autistic and ADHD traits as separate challenges, we recognize how they interact uniquely in your brain and life
- Instead of helping you "manage" your sensory sensitivities, we redesign your physical spaces to reduce or eliminate those triggers altogether
The key difference: I don't try to fix you to fit the world — I help you uncover what's already true for you, and build a life around it. This is especially important for AuDHDers, as the intersection of Autism and ADHD creates unique experiences that single-focus coaching often misses.
When you're both Autistic AND have ADHD, you need an approach that understands how these neurotypes interact—like how your ADHD might drive you into situations that overwhelm your Autistic sensitivities, or how your Autistic need for routine conflicts with ADHD's need for novelty. My ecosystem design approach addresses these intersections directly.
I explore these concepts in depth on my podcast AuDHD Sparks, where you can hear real examples of how ecosystem design works in practice.
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As a coach, I focus on present challenges and future possibilities rather than processing past trauma. Many clients work with both a therapist and a coach simultaneously. If I believe you would benefit from therapy, I may suggest that as a complement to our work together.
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Self-identification is valid! Many AuDHDers, especially women and non-binary folks, face significant barriers to formal diagnosis. If you strongly identify with Autistic and ADHD traits, you're welcome here.